Monday, February 27, 2006

Bullying: As it grows on those it infects

Adults acting like children. We've all seen it and the only difference between the childrens' quarrels and adults' debates are that adults get on tv, go to court and can drive. Changes between childhood and adulthood in one's personality are difficult and rarely occur completely. I've seen many youngins who have grown up with me, older or younger than me and sometimes it's just plain obvious that some kids aren't going to have the easiest life once they've gotten older. So what happens to the kids who fall into the traps of bullying and others who make their own traps by slipping into habits of taking their anger out on other kids?
If control is missing in someone's life, it is a natural tendency to try and make up for that lost control where control is to be had. Children who are abused at home or unsatisfied with the way they are treated at home can make up for that when they are among peers. This is where bullying comes in. It is making up the difference on other kids who are weaker in some ways than they are, very much like how they are weaker than whatever force is limiting their control elsewhere. These kids will grow up, feeling like they have to make up for the missing control in their lives. If they are so commonly controlled, then when do they get to be the ones on the giving end of the switch? When the unruly power over them ceases they are free to express, unlike when they are suppressed. As children grow in stature, with keener minds and broader muscles, the opposition previously presented by their former rulers abates till it is thin enough to be cut off. Unless these kids realize that there's more to life than feeling good about themselves and power then they will continue to exploit every power they have till they get into trouble and possibly help with the filling of prison cells. They have set their own destinations and have tampered with others', and unless the choice to change is made the spiral will continue.
The bullied are affected just as much as the bullying are. When their own suppressors move on to bigger and better banks, logically they will begin to realize their own power over others, physically or mentally, and I wouldn't jump to say that the choice to change the trend is any easier for these escaping victims than it is for the ones that had initially impended their power-complexes on others. There are always bad guys at the end of any movie worth watching (hehe jk), half of which are geniuses who were picked on on their way to 1st grade and decided to seek revenge and like it. People who are smart enough to make themselves the exception of the law and get away with something a great deal more than pocket change don't just use their muscle that they built picking on kids in 1st grade. It takes brains to get away with so much money nowadays and it is happening all over, all due to people who think that their beings and power opiates are more important than others.
Every day the other kids make fun, tease, and hurt my little brother. No one is friends with him. Now if all of this were true then more drastic measures would have been taken than just inquire from the teacher whether my little bro. has any truth to what he likes to say a lot. Since it is obviously exaggerated there was no cause to go further than the teacher, however the little truth that made his little brain decide to tell us that there was a problem didn't come out of no where. I don't want to see him grow up thinking that it's his turn to make others pay and I'd rather be able to see him make friends with the kids who aren't as happy as they should be at home. The solution can typically come from people who have felt like they were done an injustice and decided to overlook it and break the ever-growing slinky of bullying, because if they don't, then the spiraled metal will only grow more twisted and impossible to unwind.

2 Comments:

Blogger Noelle said...

eeg...is it Mikey? Tell him I love him for me, k? And when is his bday?

1:22 PM  
Blogger Sir Radish said...

Wow this is embarassing, but I only know his b-day is around... November 20thish... ? :S hehe yeah I think I was referring to him as he feels so bullied.

10:35 PM  

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